5 ways moms can thrive

Dec 19 2017, 10:29 pm

Being a mom is one of the toughest, most rewarding jobs out there. We dedicate so much of our being to meeting the needs of our children, unfortunately often times, neglecting and sacrificing our very own.

We put our children first, because our love for them is unconditional, and the reality is, there’s only so many hours in a day, often times, leaving most of them to meeting our children’s needs (especially that first year).

In addition, the guilt chip the doctors failed to tell us was implanted in us during pregnancy, is forever stuck in us, telling us that if we do things for ourselves we are bad parents. Consequently, when we aren’t putting our own needs first, this can result in feeling burnt out, missing our old life prior to raising children, lack of patience, resentment, feeling unappreciated, frustrated, stressed and overall exhausted.

I know it’s easier said than done, but turning off that annoying guilt chip that alarms when we want to meet our own needs first, is not only beneficial to ourselves, but it’s ultimately necessary if we want to model to our children the importance of self-love and self-care.

Furthermore, when we carve out time for ourselves, this helps us thrive. In other words, putting ourselves first, is essential to our internal happiness, and overall growth.

Here are five basic needs that we need to meet in order to thrive:

1. Emotional needs

We all have emotions. However, once we become mothers we tend to feel our emotions more than we  ever did before we  become a parent. We tend to lose our patience quicker, cry easier, anger quickly, laugh hysterically and even cry happy tears, when our children do the simplest thing, like bring home a drawing from preschool. All of these emotions are natural, however making time to tend to our emotional needs is imperative, so they don’t overwhelm us, and cause stress.

For this reason, spending time alone each day, laughing with a friend, letting out our frustrations with a good cry, setting up date nights with our partner and saying “no” are all ways in which we can tend to our emotional needs.

2. Physical needs

There’s no denying that parenting is a physical job. Unfortunately, the mundane duties like chores, driving to activities, cooking, cleaning and chasing our children around to get dressed isn’t enough physical activity to keep us feeling sane. In fact, this type of physical activity can be draining.

However, when we make time to exercise, go on brisk walks, eat the right foods and even take a nice hot bath, we are tending solely to our own physical needs, which feels rejuvenating.

3. Intellectual needs

We spend so much time stimulating our children with books, learning activities, trips to the library, flash cards, music, and arts and crafts, that we can forget to stimulate our own intellectual needs. In fact, I’ve had many moms tell me that they have lost their vocabulary, their brain feels like mush, and they can’t remember a thing! For this reason, it’s crucial to meet our own intellectual needs!

Perhaps the next time you’re at the library with your little one, you can borrow a book for yourself too. You can also watch TED talks, listen to pod casts, write in a journal, or do your very own art project. All of these activities keep us stimulated, increase our mental focus, memory and vocabulary.

4. Social needs

It’s easy to let socializing become last on our  list of priorities. With work, house duties and extra curricular activities, where’s the time to hang out with friends? The thing is, if we don’t  make time to connect with our friends, we can end up feeling lonely. Spending time with friends, attending parent groups, going to events, and even a quick chat on the phone with a close friend, are all ways in which we can meet our social needs.

5. Spiritual needs

Lastly, when we make time to do things that make our soul happy, we tend to our spiritual needs. Some examples of how we can meet our spiritual needs, which are fundamental to our inner growth, are volunteering, contributing to a cause you believe in, random acts of kindness and meditation. When we meet our spiritual needs, we model to our children a life filled with compassion.

All in all, when moms make themselves a priority, and meet their needs on a consistent basis it enables them to reclaim their sense of self and ultimately thrive!


Thriving Moms

On Wednesday, April 1, 2015 at 6:30 pm at Creekside Community Centre, in Olympic Village, Conscious Divas: a community for conscious women who value inner growth will be hosting a Thriving Moms event, for mothers who want to ignite their dreams. Attendees will get a chance to mingle and connect with other like-minded moms and enjoy a light meal while hearing from a fantastic line-up of inspirational speakers. The evening is complete with delectable desserts and authentic table discussions.

Thriving Moms aims to answer the question that no one is asking: how can a mother pursue
her dreams while being a remarkable parent? This evening retreat will provide a safe space
for moms to join that conversation. Moms will come away with the permission to Thrive, the
strategies to show them how, and a community to support them. It will be an unforgettable evening.

To celebrate the SOLD OUT #ThrivingMoms event, @conscious_divas is giving away $1,200 in swag on March 24 from 8 to 9 p.m. on Twitter.

For more information visit www.consciousdivas.com/thriving-moms.

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