Can you give as well as you receive? When it comes to love, and even friendship, gift giving is a universal act across all cultures. As the saying goes, “you can give without loving but you can’t love without giving”.
Why is it important that we need to share these token acts of kindness with our loved ones? Isn’t it enough they know that we love and appreciate them?
Yes, while the feeling and sentiments are there, we all need to remind our loved ones how much they mean to you. What better way than to surprise them with gifts, the more unexpected the better. The gifts themselves don’t have to be expensive (although tasteful jewelry never fails), sometimes the best gifts are the most thoughtful ones. Ronald relates that last Christmas a dear friend of his gave him a hand-made card because she didn’t have the means to buy him an elaborate gift. This card is one of his favorite gifts ever.
And being a gracious receiver is important too. Don’t be angry or disappointed if you don’t get a gift you wanted and insist that you must pay the giver (although I’m sure she’ll appreciate a surprise gift from you in the future). The best way to thank her is by showing gratitude for her thoughtfulness.
The gift doesn’t need to be physical either. Remember, giving yourself can be a gift too. Making it a point to spend quality time with someone, telling her how appreciative you are of her and being intimate with someone can each be equally as treasured.
As well, gift giving doesn’t need to be reserved only for holidays or special occasions; try making it a weekly/bi-weekly event. Your loved ones will love you for it.
What have you given your loved ones lately?
By Ronald Lee and Matt Ha